Wednesday, February 6, 2008
It’s been a long time since I posted here. This blog was meant to be a place to vent my frustrations with William. And while things definitely have notbeen perfect, by the time I could get around to writing it is over and I don’t want to drudge up bad feelings.
As I’ve mentioned one of our biggest fights is over the state of the house. Last week i pretty much stayed away from the computer and cleaned. Dozens of loads of laundry washed and put away, cupboards cleaned out, floors scrubbed on hands and knees, our bedroom swept and mopped, even moving the bed to do so (boy, those dust bunnies were something else), bookcases sorted out and so on. It was far from perfect, but every single day when he came home the toys were picked up, dishes were done, the main floor was clean, dinner was nearly ready. I was happy with this. I’m assuming he was happy with this, even though nothing was said.
And that really pisses me off. If you are willing to criticize you also need to be willing to compliment. People thrive on it. Well I do anyway.
I work weekend evenings. Saturday morning I spent cleaning and when I got home Saturday night no dishes were done, there was food still on the table, toys on the floor along with the girls’ discarded clothing. I noticed drops of chocolate milk all over the kids table in the livingroom. I was too tired to deal with any of it.
Sunday morning was spent at Superstore and Canadian Tire and then I ws back off to work. I came home to the same thing on Sunday night, although some dishes had been weashed. For some reason, no one in the house seems to be willing to walk from sink to table and back again for the girls’ dishes.
I was doing dishes at quarter to 11 and I said to William “You can never again get mad at me for the state of the house.”
I went on to say that I had cleaned all week, that every day he came home to a clean house, and look at it after one weekend. He said “I had 2 sick little girls.” Um, so did I. We did not fight over it. It was a very calm discussion that I kept very light. I did say that i want the compliments, that I need to know it is appreciated. He said he does and I said how am I supposed to know if he doesn’t tell me. I guess I am supposed to know because he is not be grumpy?
I have been sick since Sunday and yesterday I took the kids and their friends to Galaxyland. The house has quickly become a mess again. I am feeling much better today so I should probably get off the computer and start cleaning.
It really is amazing how little it takes for it to become a mess. Luckily, I did enough deep cleaning last week that it won’t take long for a little light cleaning to get it clean again.
